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What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do?

Imagine walking 40 km (sometimes 50 km) every night for five nights on tar roads when the weather is 40C. The heat (104F) is one reason the walking is done at night, among other reasons like traffic, etc. So, this is what I did a few years ago—walk a pilgrimage south of India. It is …

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Is Falling In Love – A Choice or Calling? 

Love – so much more than a four-letter word. For some, it’s like – what do you mean, Love? I have a life to live. For some, it is that magical feeling that will cure everything. For some, it is an image of what movies and books talk about. For some, it is what runs …

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How do you make the most of the little deaths each of us goes through?

A couple of weeks ago, we were on our way back from Montreal and got stranded in Philadelphia. Three hundred flights were cancelled, and there were no hotel rooms. After being on a tiny flight with three seats per row, circling the airport for hours takes a toll on your tolerance limits when deciding the …

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Are You Sure You Know Your Native Language?

We have a close friend who is a musician and a pianist; that was the first time I spent so much time with a musician. Those were my MBA days – so I had time to loiter in one of our residences. And it was on those times when just for a lark – I …

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Malicious People Are Great – Why? Because they force you to be better

I am sure all of us have been in a position where we have been offended by something someone said or did—and even hours, days, or years later, we still get riled up. In some cases, we can remove such people from our lives, and in some cases, we cannot. As I mentioned in previous …

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Sometimes It’s Better To Let Things Be…Instead Of Doing

I am watching a Netflix Series called ‘Panchayat’. It is based in rural India, a bit like my ancestral village. Imagine mud huts, the Baaing of goats, rooster crowing, water from hand pumps, and people resting under the Banana tree in front of the temple. Anyways, in this series, one of the characters loses his …

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Concrete Jungle – Why I Love It So Much?

“I am going to Chicago for a city fix…” I told my colleague just before the Memorial Day long weekend kicked in. It took a while for reality to sink in that I do not think of Columbus as a city. My definition of a city is tall buildings with only bits of sky visible, …

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Surprise! Change Does Not Care What You Think About It.

I binge-watched a Netflix series last night: Bodkin, a murder mystery set in an Irish town/village. A group of podcasters goes there to solve three disappearances from decades ago. I just wanted to let go, so I chose this as it called out to me, and it was also in the top ten on Netflix. …

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Is There An Inner Child In All Of Us, Really?

My brother and his family are visiting India right now, and I am a little nostalgic because I am not with them. It is the peak of summer in India, which means time for mangoes and ‘nongu’, or ice apples. When my family was eating them in the village this time, one of our family …

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How To Gain Wisdom Through Suffering?

I have been reading this series of cosy mysteries set in the Cotswolds, UK, with Agatha Raisin, a fifty-year-old prickly woman, as the main character. I recommended this series to my father-in-law, and forty pages in it, he told me, ‘ She is not a nice person.’ I responded that she would grow on you, …

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