I binge-watched a Netflix series last night: Bodkin, a murder mystery set in an Irish town/village. A group of podcasters goes there to solve three disappearances from decades ago. I just wanted to let go, so I chose this as it called out to me, and it was also in the top ten on Netflix. It was Grand – to use the Irish expression. It was one of the rare shows where I had to listen to every line instead of fast-forwarding by 30 seconds as I had been doing thus far.

When you are drawn to something That Is Your Soul Speaking

What made it enjoyable? Well, Irish folks in the series were fascinating. They were a closed group in the town and did not want podcasters digging up their past. Or maybe it was the proximity to London – statements like One character asks: Is it raining? Other responds with: Well, it is more like a wet breeze. And a passerby says – It is Ireland (rolling the R); it is always raining. And then there are all these Irish folklore and the Irish Singing and men have such lovely voices. And the mood I was in subconsciously was drawn to that – and I am sure all of us have heard the famous Wellerman Sea shanty song that went viral over COVID.

One of the lines in the show was – life, like time, only moves forward. But do we move forward? Sometimes, our mind stays in the past. I don’t think it would be exaggerating to say that, for the most part, we live in the past or future but never in the present. I mean – we are eating, sleeping, and watching the dates in the calendar move forward, but our minds are stuck in something that has happened in the past – rewriting it or imagining the future. There is a lot of satisfaction in reliving the emotions of the past and then imagining it some other way. But however satisfying it might be – it is like junk food – feels good but doesn’t do much. Yet, we still engage in it due to the conditioning we have had for years. 

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

Coming back to the story – the three main characters had their demons as well; one struggled with expressing emotions or showing she cared, another wanted approval, and the last one wanted things to go back to how it was when his first podcast was a hit. There is comfort in knowing how it was in the past – as we are comfortable, we knew it, and it was good. And leaving that familiar territory into the unknown is a change, and it takes time to adjust. With every significant change – there is a cycle. First, we try to understand the extent of change, grapple with it, resist it, kick and scream a bit, and complain a lot and then after that initial phase – we accept the change, and slowly, we start to become bigger than the change. We have absorbed change enough that it is a familiar friend, and we are asking ourselves: What do we do next? Instead of OMG, this is also happening. And that’s when you know you have gone over the peak of change – the rest of the journey will not be easy, but at least you won’t be drowning for the most part. And the struggles will be more contained in yourself as it is not too much to handle that it is spilling outside of yourself and impacting other people.

It is good to have these cycles of change every once in a while —like a snake shedding its skin, our inner soul has grown, but the outer mind needs to shed to make space for the growth. It is uncomfortable, but not going through the change is even more painful. Keep an eye out for who you will become on the other side of the shed. 

Think about what you have outgrown and needs a good shedding!

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