“You display the same behavior and aren’t aware of it so you project your disowned behavior onto others and dislike it “out there.”
Everyone has encountered the second cause at some point. Someone is complaining about a friend or acquaintance and you think to yourself, “That’s funny, they do the same thing they are finding wrong!”
What we don’t realize that it probably applies to us too, so if I find myself complaining about the traits in another person then it is a clear indication to look within and see if I possess those traits too. If I think that the person X is very selfish. This means that I know what selfish means and how it manifests in behavior. Now some of the readers might argue that knowing is not the same as being selfish. And I would ask you to think back in your life when you shared your opinion [selfish person X] with your friend and he/she says ‘No I don’t think they are selfish – they just have a different way of looking at things’ but you still hold onto that opinion. Doesn’t this indicate that you are an expert at identifying selfish behavior even when others cannot see it. This is where we think that ‘I am perfect, all the flaws exist in others’ without realizing that they have to exist in us in order for us to see it in others.
Buddha once said ‘We have lived so many countless lives searching for enlightenment that we have all been at some point our past lives been a murderer, thief, king, queen, saint, nun, kind, selfish. And that means we are in no position to judge others.’
Next time we see ourselves judging others, it is a sign that we need to explore within to see how we are manifesting that behavior in ourselves first.
To finish off – a quote ‘Do not throw stones at others house when you live in a glass house’